Does it ever feel like people around you somehow manage to keep their life together while you have no clue about what you’re doing? You break down crying when toilet paper is out in aisle three, while people all around you look nonchalant about this whole mess. Your chest feels heavy. Maybe not in a way that actively stops you from carrying on doing things, but you can’t help but feel somewhat depressed. Meanwhile, your friends are coping with the situation just fine, having meetings on Zoom or sharing lovely stories on social media.
Well, truth is, everyone’s a mess right now. But how we choose to behave when we feel like that reveals how mature we really are. Level-headedness is a skill. And you can learn it right now. By faking it.
Take Small Actions
Sure, there are a lot of things that you can’t control during this pandemic. But wouldn’t you feel better if you focused on the things you can control instead? Remind yourself that you’re in charge. Bring structure to chaos. Need a few ideas?
Right now you can control:
- How much effort you put into your activities.
- How much rest you get at night.
- How many tweets you’re going to post about Carole Baskin.
- How many negative articles you’re going to read.
- What you’re eating
- And so on…
It doesn’t matter how small these actions are. They’ll soothe you by showing you that life hasn’t completely escaped your control.
There is a Chinese saying that goes: “If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.”
Since everybody is affected by the disruption caused by the new virus, this is a great time to put your ego aside and help others. Spread kindness. Cut the drama. Don’t jump on every doomsday thread on Reddit. De-escalate. Don’t bad-mouth others.
Shifting your focus away from your problems will provide you a much-needed sense of ease. It’ll then help you keep your sense of control over your life.
Write Down Your Core Values
You make your best decisions when your emotions and your logic are in check. This is a great moment to take some time to find clarity. Think about your values, write down a list of the reasons that motivate you in life. Then, set some personal rules for your behavior and use them to focus on how to live your best life.
Ultimately, that’s what looking like you know what you’re doing is all about. It’s not just the fascination of resolute leaders. It’s about the ability to focus on the things that really matter. We might have to fake it, but who cares if it still helps us live at our best?