“97% of people who quit chasing their dreams are hired by the 3% that didn’t”
So you’ve spent days, weeks or months hunting for the perfect job, only to be invited along to interview for the company of your dreams. You can’t believe your luck and you subsequently pour hours and hours of work into preparing expectant questions and answers and conducting extremely thorough research on everything from the company’s financial figures of that year to finding out what the MD likes to eat for breakfast (stranger things have been asked).
Then you attend the interview; you put on your finest suit, meet with your prospective employer and you go through the overly formal, grilling and intensive interrogation that was somehow described as a ‘casual’ chat when you were told what to expect from the interview. You leave the interview feeling either really confident or really disappointed at how it went, but either way it’s over and now all you have to do is await the outcome.
In an ideal world, we would all get every job we ever went for, and the pain of rejection would never be felt. But, unfortunately, life is not that straightforward, and sometimes the outcome or response is just a simple, yet soul destroying, “no”. When this happens, depending on how many times you’ve been turned down and how low your self esteem is at that moment, it can be incredibly difficult not to feel upset, depressed, frustrated and angry. Not giving up at this point is crucial, you have to push through the negative emotions and put yourself out there again, no matter how challenging it may seem.
Many people will give up on you in life, so it is important not to give up on yourself. Here’s a few things you can do to handle rejection better and remind yourself why you shouldn’t give up.
Everyone Experiences Rejection
When you are going through a point in your life where it feels like everything is going wrong and the world is against you, it is easy to feel isolated and alone, as if you are the only person going through this. When this happens, just remember that every person that has tried to succeed at anything has failed at least once, and more than likely countless times. If you need further inspiration, just do a quick Google search of some of the most famous successful names you know and you will soon see that their path to success was never a straight journey.
J.K. Rowling was rejected 12 times before a publisher finally decided that Harry Potter was something that people would like. Lisa Kudrow was fired two days after landing a role on the hit show Frasier, before landing on her feet with the part of Phoebe in Friends. Before creating his empire, Walt Disney was fired from his job as he was told he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” If you give up after one rejection you never know what might have been had you kept trying.
When One Door Closes
As the saying goes “when one door closes, another one opens.” If you fail to get onto the course that you wanted, or you don’t get the job you had your heart set on, or you feel as though you’ll never get to where you want to be, just remember that opportunities are limitless. As long as you are going after what you want, it doesn’t matter how many setbacks you face, your determination will get you there eventually. Just keep trying and keep your motivation and desire to succeed at the fore of your mind. After all, if you are confident about your abilities and eager to go after what you want, any half-decent employer will see your worth.
On a final note, just remember that life has a funny way of putting roadblocks in front of places we think we’re supposed to be, either to prevent us from ending up somewhere we shouldn’t, or to re-direct us to somewhere even better. Rejection can bring us to a place we never expected to be, but when we get there we realise it’s exactly where we should be.
Let go of the idea of what you think life should look like and just have faith that everything will work out in the end, it might not sound like a solid strategy but with the unpredictability and uncertainty of life, sometimes faith is all we have.