“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
If I were to ask you who you are, would you know how to answer the question? There are many different approaches to describing a particular human life, you can list basic information such as age, gender, name and occupation. You can talk about hobbies and interests, and tell someone about what you’re really passionate about. Or you can describe your personality, talk about all of the attributes, traits, characteristics and quirks that you think make you who you are.
But the truth is, even if you make a big long list of all of those things it still doesn’t really answer the question, the reason being that we are not any amount of particular things, we don’t equate to a list of words that describe us, and most importantly we are all subject to change at any given moment. Nothing is permanent. How, therefore, are we expected to make decisions for ourselves that will lead us down the right path when there is no real way of knowing what that path is and if it truly is the right way to go? Well thankfully there are things we can do to understand ourselves better, even if it doesn’t mean finding out exactly who we are. So if you want to start getting to know yourself, here are 3 ways to do so.
Listen To Your Emotions
You may not be able to make decisions easily or figure out what direction you should go in, but almost everyone knows how something makes them feel. Certain things make us feel happy, sad, anxious, excited, stressed, angry etc. We are driven by our feelings, and as confusing as our thoughts can be sometimes, our emotions are always crystal clear if you take a moment to think about them. Instead of trying to always think things through and overanalyse everything, follow how you feel and let your instincts determine your next move.
Pay Attention To Other People
Listen carefully to what other people have to say, soaking up their words, stories and opinions. Ask as many questions as you can and absorb any information that comes your way, even if you don’t believe it or agree with it. Viewing yourself from the inside isn’t enough, you must come to understand your life in the context of everything around you, only then can you see who you truly are.
Free Yourself From Your Idea Of ‘You’
If you tell yourself you are someone or something in particular, you will start to believe it. This can become dangerous if you start to associate yourself with negative things or if the person you think you are starts to lose its appeal. Don’t put yourself into any boxes, be open to change and try to adapt to life as it happens. Just because you were a shy teenager doesn’t mean you’ll be a shy adult, and just because you can’t speak a foreign language today doesn’t mean you won’t someday. You create your identity, and you can change who you are whenever you wish. Have the courage to be anything you want to be, what do you have to lose?
The most important thing when it comes to ‘finding yourself’ is to remember that you don’t really need to be found, you simply need to get to a stage of your life where you can happily say you feel content with the life you lead and that it is authentic to who you are at that time. Let go of who you think you are, and you will soon become more like yourself than ever.